By Ninyo Omidiji
Slay queen! Men, young men especially, have been advised to avoid them, regardless of where they met this breed of the female species. Men have equally been advised to resist being with them.
X-raying the anatomy of a "slay queen", she often does not have a wealthy background but she presents a facade that suggests she came from one. To the discerning, she comes across as posh, upscale and sophisticated.
She spends all the time and resources she can get to procure good looks. The only asset she has is her body. It is the only thing she invests on. The only thing that occupies her brain is how to acquire the next fashion paraphernalia and flaunt them. O yes! She flaunts the things she could not actually afford with a view to slight her fellow women and also call attention to herself.
Apart from the foregoing, there's nothing more to her. She's like a beautiful automobile with superb aesthetics but without a functional engine. She is on every social media platform trying hard to showcase her body to the highest bidders.
The most expensive item in her possession is her smartphone. No, she doesn't just use a phone, she flaunts it. She would do anything to acquire a phone that is not even her size.
A slay queen is both lazy and lousy. She feels too classy for certain jobs even when she's on ground zero. She cannot get her hands dirty to earn a living. Working is like a taboo for her. Ask her to choose between starting a small scale business for her and buying her a phone that is worth 1000 Dollars, she would go for the phone.
Ordinarily, women are natural assets and a plus to their men but a slay queen is not a plus to anyone. She is not an asset. She's a liability. She's a capital project that never ends. She's a high-maintenance woman who would not lift a finger to sustain or support her expensive lifestyle.
A "slay queen" is like a graveyard that never says "it is enough". She is a grabber, a bottomless pit. She is insatiable. Nothing you give can be enough. She's a money guzzler. And to crown it all, she feels entitled. She's ungrateful, no matter what you do for her.
Forget about the pet names she calls you. She is actually not interested in you but in herself. She's extremely egocentric. All she wants is to have you sponsor her vain lifestyle. She will not only drain you financially but emotionally. She will waste your time resource. Dear young man, fall in love with her and you have fallen in love with your own ruins.
In actual fact, it takes a foolish man to fall in love with a "slay mama". She is not capable of loving in return. To her, you are nothing more than a sponsor, not a lover. Never think you can spend the rest of your life with her. Never get stuck with her. Wake up and smell the coffee before it's too late.
She has left many victims in her trail. You don't have to join the list. She's charming but don't be carried away by her charm. The day you are broke is the day she moves on to the next victim.
To every young lady out there, never aspire to become a "slay queen". Slaying is not a career. There's no future in it. Everything and everyone grows old. It is a road that leads nowhere. Do not model your life after the much-touted slay queens you see in the media. Not all that glitters is gold. Everything about them is unreal. They are more or less repackaged prostitutes.
However, if being fashionable or stylish comes naturally to you or it is in-born, by all means, go for it. Looking good is good business. Be fashionable all you can but stay within your means. And never neglect to be industrious.
Be real. Be comfortable in your own skin. Be genuine. Being genuine is attractive enough. Be industrious. There is beauty in industry. A man who despises industry in a woman is not a real man. He is vain, shallow and superficial. A man who cannot see the beauty in your industry and genuiness is not deserving of you. Be proud of yourself. Be proud of your hustle whether it yields little or much.
...Ninyo Omidiji, is a medical doctor and a public affairs commentator. His articles are published by Nigerian NewsLeader Newspaper (a leading Online, e-paper and Print News Medium) based in FCT Abuja. NNL.
